Thoughts For the Day

“The thought manifests as the word.

The word manifests as the deed.

The deed develops into habit.

Ans habit hardens into character.

So watch the thought and its ways with care.

As the shadow follows the body, As we think, so we become.”

 

Dhammapada.

 

Such a simple set of words, but so profound and true. Words to live by.

Think Before You Speak

Whenever I wish to move 

Or to speak,

First I shall examine my state of mind,

And firmly act in a suitable way.

Whenever my mind becomes attached

Or angry,

I shall not react, nor shall I speak;

I shall remain unmoved like a tree.

I absolutely love these words by Shantideva.  More than anything in the world, I would love to be a person who follows them implicitly.  I was thinking earlier today about the impact of our actions – verbal, physical and mental. Their is so much power in what we do and how our words and choices affect not just others but most importantly ourselves. Can you imagine a world where we all kept our negative thoughts to ourselves? Where we approached every situation in a rational, mature and calm way? Where instead of radiating jealousy, regret, anger or insecurity, we radiated strength, love, confidence and compassion? I want to be in that world! And the amazing thing is we can be in that world, if we want it.

My mission this year is to really do my best to follow these words. The point of this entry is, I’m hopeful for a world where we treat each other with kindness and maintain our self-respect. Anything is possible, it all comes from within. Let’s make it happen!<3

Single Doesn’t Equal Spinster.

 

So I just read an article about Jennifer Aniston in NY Magazine about why the media loved painting her as America’s loneliest, saddest and most desperate woman prior to this engagement to Justin Theroux. Honestly, I have never really had an opinion about her except that like most of the world, I think she has GREAT hair. In fact, she is single-handedly my hair-spiration. Also, she seems like a pretty cool chick. But as far as her being “single” since dating Justin and splitting from Brad, I don’t have an opinion on that. It is her life and she actually was dating and working so I wouldn’t call her a  sad, old, spinster like the media was so quick to. Also, and this is my real point in bringing her up, why is being single akin to having some disease in this world?

I have sympathized and empathized with her in the last few years. The fact that she’s been called everything from crazy and desperate to pathetic and sad is wild to me. Because she didn’t have a husband? And now that she is engaged, I find it hysterical that the media is STILL painting her as desperate. Now she’s desperate to beat Brad down the aisle, desperate for kids, desperate to be a wife. It’s all so silly and makes me wonder…. is being single really that bad? To me, it’s not.

I am single right now but I am feeling very fulfilled in life. Would I like to have a boyfriend? Sure, of course, but does being with someone define me? No. I refuse to let it.  Am I lonely, sad, depressed, desperate? Hardly. I have a full, beautiful life and I’m sure she did too. There is real empowerment in being single. You get to understand yourself, what you like and what you don’t, who you are as a person. You can try new things, life is still exciting.

I’ve been in many situations where I’m one of the few single girls, and I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been told “not to worry, it will happen” or “how is someone as pretty as you alone?” or my favorite, “don’t you want a boyfriend? Aren’t you lonely?”.  One, I’m not worried, two, thank you, I am beautiful, three, I would rather find a quality man then settle for just anyone.

The main point here is that YOU are the answer to your own happiness. Not a man, not a woman, not anything, you. So go out and discover who you are and don’t forget to keep enjoying life in the process :).

My Thoughts On… Rihanna.

So I just finished that Rihanna interview with Oprah that everyone’s been talking about and I have to say, I appreciate her sincerity and honesty in talking about subjects that can be pretty difficult to discuss with your mom or sister, let alone the world.  Of course, I’m referencing the insanely hyped part  of the interview where she talked about who else… Chris Brown. NOW, in my personal opinion, appalling incident aside, homeboy is not all that. He can dance and make good music but watching him in interviews is truly comparable to watching a caveman. I don’t get the appeal at all.

Anyway, she basically confessed that she still loves Chris Brown and that for her, since he was her first love, she’ll never be able to shut that love off, despite the immense pain he caused her. She admitted that she has forgiven him, they still talk, and are pretty close friends these days (note to CB”s current girlfriend: ouch :() It sounds crazy to think that you can love someone who’s treated you the way he treated her right? I mean we all remember the picture, the stories, all of it. But watching her cry, saying she misses him and will always love him got me thinking about love in general. Isn’t it fascinating that the one thing in the world that is supposed to be so pure and so beautiful can make us completely blind to all of the wrong things? She is such a gorgeous, talented individual. I wonder if she sees that. After watching this interview, I don’t believe she does. If she did, she wouldn’t welcome him back into her life as seemingly openly as she has. It also disturbed me to hear that she was more concerned with protecting him after the incident instead of worrying about her own well-being. But, that is just my personal opinion.

I do believe there will always be people in your life that stay with you and who, despite everything, you might still love. I know because I’ve felt it. But I also believe many of us, including me, look through rose-colored glasses when it comes to looking at the past. Rihanna called Chris her one true love. But can you really call the person who embarrassed and humiliated you in front of the world your one true love?  It’s tough to say.

I don’t know if I have any readers on here but I would love to know what you think. Do you think Rihanna was wrong to admit that she still loves him? Or do you think people can genuinely change and that once you love, you can’t turn it off?