Falling In Love With One Word.

 

I must be in a romantic mood tonight because I keep posting about love! Well, I am a big fan of StumbleUpon like a lot of people these days, and tonight,  I “stumbled upon” (:P) a post that I thought was really, really sweet. It is from a blog called bigthink.com and is called “The Top 10 Relationship Words That Aren’t Translatable Into English.

I won’t post all of them here but I will share one that I liked a lot. Apparently Forelsket is Norwegian for the euphoria you experience when you are falling for someone. How cool is it that there is a word for that  feeling!?

But what I think is interesting about this is that can you really put that feeling into words? I mean, obviously a word does indeed exist for it but is it really possible? I know for me, when I’ve felt that feeling my mind can’t even process it. It’s just a feeling and definitely one of the best feelings in the world.  It’ s just that moment when you feel your heart beating and suddenly everything looks brighter, your steps feel lighter, the dark in the world feels a little less dark and all the good moments feel even more heightened. You feel like an electrical charge is surging through your body all the time and like you are walking on air. How do you lock all of that into one word?

Pretty amazing.

 

Couple Crush?

So, I was perusing my absolute favorite website – nymag.com – when I stumbled upon a really fascinating story by Lisa Miller about famous Hollywood power couples that our culture has gone on to idolize, some still together, some long broken up.  It brought up a really interesting point about why we perhaps idolize these couples, calling it a “couple crush”. Her reasoning for the crush is that we look up to these couples because we are in love with the fantasy of the perfect couple that we see in them. That we look up to them while analyzing all of the problems in our own relationships. She also went on to say that in real life, many people have these kind of “crushes” on other real life couples, because they believe they have stronger relationships than their own and wish theirs could be more like them.

Now, I know that every couple has issues, no one is perfect. In fact, I was just talking to someone today about the fact that every single relationship is work and if you are committed to making it work it will stand a greater chance at lasting, but no relationship is seamless all the time. I don’t think “couple crushes” are worth having because at the end of the day, you don’t know what goes on behind closed doors and you need to focus on what makes your relationship work and what you love about that other person.

Buuuuut, if I had to absolutely pick my “couple crush” it would be:

Yes, I know this is OLD, but they were the couple I definitely had the biggest crush on when I was growing up! They were too perfect, too beautiful, and too good to be true apparently, cause they didn’t last but oh well. Brit Brit and Justin are definitely one of top favorite pairings of all time. Iconic!

Single Doesn’t Equal Spinster.

 

So I just read an article about Jennifer Aniston in NY Magazine about why the media loved painting her as America’s loneliest, saddest and most desperate woman prior to this engagement to Justin Theroux. Honestly, I have never really had an opinion about her except that like most of the world, I think she has GREAT hair. In fact, she is single-handedly my hair-spiration. Also, she seems like a pretty cool chick. But as far as her being “single” since dating Justin and splitting from Brad, I don’t have an opinion on that. It is her life and she actually was dating and working so I wouldn’t call her a  sad, old, spinster like the media was so quick to. Also, and this is my real point in bringing her up, why is being single akin to having some disease in this world?

I have sympathized and empathized with her in the last few years. The fact that she’s been called everything from crazy and desperate to pathetic and sad is wild to me. Because she didn’t have a husband? And now that she is engaged, I find it hysterical that the media is STILL painting her as desperate. Now she’s desperate to beat Brad down the aisle, desperate for kids, desperate to be a wife. It’s all so silly and makes me wonder…. is being single really that bad? To me, it’s not.

I am single right now but I am feeling very fulfilled in life. Would I like to have a boyfriend? Sure, of course, but does being with someone define me? No. I refuse to let it.  Am I lonely, sad, depressed, desperate? Hardly. I have a full, beautiful life and I’m sure she did too. There is real empowerment in being single. You get to understand yourself, what you like and what you don’t, who you are as a person. You can try new things, life is still exciting.

I’ve been in many situations where I’m one of the few single girls, and I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been told “not to worry, it will happen” or “how is someone as pretty as you alone?” or my favorite, “don’t you want a boyfriend? Aren’t you lonely?”.  One, I’m not worried, two, thank you, I am beautiful, three, I would rather find a quality man then settle for just anyone.

The main point here is that YOU are the answer to your own happiness. Not a man, not a woman, not anything, you. So go out and discover who you are and don’t forget to keep enjoying life in the process :).